1Jn 4:16-17 (NLT) We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in him. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we are like Christ here in this world.
Have you ever opened your mouth and said something that upset a brother or sister in Christ (or anyone for that matter)? I know I have (on more than one occasion... I am working on it) ...... and it seems to cause some strife or hard feelings ..... so what do you do to make amends? Well, apologize first and foremost, that is needed (sometimes I have to do that lots) and if that does not help the situation ..... then just love them. Swallow pride and go out of your way to show them kindness, love and understanding. I know its hard.... and you may never see any fruition from your efforts in this world.... but we must remember that God sees it.
God, who is the source of all love, is watching us each moment. If we are His, then He is dwelling in us and we in Him..... and His love is being cultivated in us.... and we should be allowing His love to permeate every aspect of our lives. Look at the verses above....
And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. Perfect? But we argue that no one here on earth is perfect... how can our love grow more perfect? Well, as we are living in God, and He is dwelling in us ... His influence is growing in our lives... His love is growing in us .... and God's love is perfect. We may not ever reach perfection here .... but look the verse does not say our loves grows to perfection.... it says our love grows more perfect....until that day when love becomes what it should be in us.